Remember, It’s OK

Grief can effect how we think and feel in subtle ways that can remain hidden, even from ourselves. I have created links to give you more information so you can better understand your thoughts, feelings and actions, and find ways to manage and help yourself as you journey toward healing. These links are for both teens and adults. Please have a look.

Resources for those on a healing journey.

PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder):

 A very worthwhile book to have beside you:

“Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving.      by Pete Walker

Three great links to help you better understand PTSD and what you can do.  You can heal.  Don’t keep suffering.

CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy):

Choose your path.  You don’t have to stay on the same track and be plagued by the same distressing thoughts over and over again. There are ways to reprogram your brain. Check this out.

Tapping:

This is a simple yet powerful technique that can reduce your feelings of stress and anxiety.  Check it out.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pAclBdj20ZU

Breathing:

We often forget to breath when we are stressed and yet it is an essential tool to bring us calm.  Have a look at these techniques you can use.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sJ04nsiz_M0

Grounding Technique:

This is a simple yet very effective way to get control of your thoughts and feelings. It is for adults, teens and younger children.

https://copingskillsforkids.com/blog/2016/4/27/coping-skill-spotlight-5-4-3-2-1-grounding-technique

Self care:

Grief and loss can be overwhelming and we forget to look after ourselves.  Self care is so important.  Have a listen.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w0iVTQS8ftg&list=PLFGedk8ChiyWUZX2DQ4y_VhE3HhQ-LV3d

Remember, It’s OK

We live in a grief avoidant society.  Many who grieve, feel isolated and alone. That’s certainly how I felt after my husband died very suddenly.  I didn’t want anyone else to have to feel that way, and so the Remember, It’s OK series was born.

We have created a new paradigm for grief, one where colours map your journey. Colours that are flexible and fluid.   We move away from the rigid ‘stages’ that have made grief difficult for so many. 

The books are written in Moments that flow through six colours:

Red: survival, urgency

Orange: beginning to find self, immediacy

Yellow: coming back to self, growing awareness

Green: learning to balance self, learning

Turquoise: what path am I on now, increased awareness and curiosity

Pale blue: clarity of new path, beginning to move forward, increased openness

  After countless interviews with people who have suffered loss, research and Marian’s 30 years of experience in the field, I crawled into their stories and created Moments,  as I connected and interwove this myriad of information.  Each Moment is written in first person, much like a personal journal entry; raw and real and honest. It validates feelings someone in grief may have and yet are reluctant to speak out loud. After each entry, there is a calm and supportive response. And then, a blank page, a breath, a space for you to write your own thoughts. 

These books are written for someone in grief and also for someone wanting to understand how a grieving person thinks and what can be said and done to help. My colleague Marian responds to the Moments with her gentle, firm, wise, knowledgeable expertise.  

 I learned so much working with this wonderful woman. 

We started out writing one book, Loss of a Partner.  We ended up writing six. The last three are released this May 2021.

Each book is a grief journey from the raw pain of loss and loneliness to the place of breath and healing.  A journey of colours. One that remains part of us. 

Remember, It’s OK.

 

COMING MAY 2021

Losing an animal friend can be heartbreaking. To many, quite devastating. They are part of your life, you family, your heart. So many people who lose a pet friend suffer in silence.  It can often be difficult to get understanding and validation for the depth of that loss. But it is a loss, a deep one.  And grief will find its way into your life.  Remember, It’s OK. We are here to support you, and give guidance to others who want to understand and help.  You are not alone.  Your grief is real and we are here to help you on your grief journey.  

COMING MAY 2021

Losing a sibling can feel like losing a piece of yourself. Your family has been rocked. Losing a friend can feel exactly the same, often without the validation from family and friends. The bond that connects us to people we love is strong, and their loss creates a hole in our lives. It can feel like that hole is bottomless. It’s not. Remember, it’s OK. You are not alone. We will help you find your way back. We are here for you.

COMING MAY 2021

Time often stands still when we lose someone we love, especially if that someone is our child.  Loss of a child is life altering.  We hope we can calm your heart and offer thoughts and suggestions to help you move forward in your life.

If you have lost your partner, your love, your other half, this book is for you. If you don’t know where to turn because your heart is so very broken, open the cover of this book. Inside these pages are moments you can identify with and guidance that will help you on this painful journey through grief.

If you have lost your partner, your love, your other half, this book is for you. If you don’t know where to turn because your heart is so very broken, open the cover of this book. Inside these pages are moments you can identify with and guidance that will help you on this painful journey through grief.

Whether it be the death of a friend or family member, this book was written in consultation with teens to ensure it meets their needs. Inside these pages are moments you will identify with and guidance that will help you on your painful journey. There are no secrets here–this book can be your safety net, your comfort, your help.

Marina L. Reed (honB.A., M.A., B.Ed.)

Marina grew up in rural Ontario. She has since lived and worked in countries around the world as an educator, a journalist, writer, and artist. She brings her skills as a writer and experiences of loss in her own life to cocreate Remember…It’s OK.

Marian Grace Boyd (B.R.E., B.A.Psych, M.A. Counselling Psych.)

Marian was born in Switzerland, lived in Chad, Africa, and then settled in Toronto, Ontario, Canada. Marian has 30+ years experience as a psychotherapist, adoption practitioner, and grief counsellor. She brings her formal training and experiences of grief together to cocreate Remember…It’s OK. Follow her on Instagram/rememberitisok.