Remember, It’s OK

Grief can effect how we think and feel in subtle ways that can remain hidden, even from ourselves. We have created links to give you more information so you can better understand your thoughts, feelings and actions, and ways to manage and help yourself as you journey to healing. These links are for both teens and adults. Please have a look.

Resources for those on a healing journey.

PTSD:

 Three great links to help you better understand PTSD and what you can do.  You can heal.  I did. Don’t keep suffering.

CBT:

There are ways to reprogram your brain so you aren’t plagued by the same distressing thoughts and feelings over and over again.  Check this out.

Tapping:

This is a simple yet powerful technique that gives you control back and can reduce your feelings of stress and anxiety.  Check it out.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pAclBdj20ZU

Breathing:

We often forget to breath when we are stressed and yet it is an essential tool to bring us calm.  Have a look at these techniques you can use.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sJ04nsiz_M0

Grounding Technique:

This is a simple yet very effective way to get control of your thoughts and feelings.  I used this often. It is for adults, teens and younger children.

https://copingskillsforkids.com/blog/2016/4/27/coping-skill-spotlight-5-4-3-2-1-grounding-technique

Self care:

Grief and loss can be overwhelming and we forget to look after ourselves.  Self care is so important.  Have a listen.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w0iVTQS8ftg&list=PLFGedk8ChiyWUZX2DQ4y_VhE3HhQ-LV3d

Remember, It’s OK

We live in a grief avoidant society.  Many who grieve, feel isolated and alone.

I experienced this isolation when my husband died very suddenly, he died in my arms in fact. One son stood right there, the others learned by phone.  We all suffered.  It shattered my world. I was a robot, numb and living in a colourless world for years. I had no safe person I could talk with, especially after the first week. Living through death changes you. But it doesn’t have to destroy you.

 When Marian asked me if I would write this series with her, I was hesitant.  I didn’t really want to go back to those feelings.  But I also knew how much something like this was needed.  I didn’t want others to feel so alone and have no help or support. When I was in the pits of grief, I didn’t want to read didactic pages full of words, I wanted to know others felt like me, and I wanted to know if there was anything I could do.  I wanted to know I wasn’t crazy.  Marian and I wanted to create a book unlike anything else.  A book where colours map your grief journey.  A book where words are few but critical.  A book where there is space to write your own thoughts and feelings. A book written in first person, like a personal journal or diary. And that’s exactly what we did.

I created a voice for the one responding to the person in grief….but the approach and strategy is Marian.  Her gentle, firm, wise, knowledgeable expertise is unique and wonderful. Marian wanted this voice to teach others how to support those suffering from loss. She is a therapist, but you don’t have to be one to help those you care about. Marian is adamant about that.

 I learned so much working with this wonderful woman. 

We started out writing one book, Loss of a Partner.  We ended up writing six. Three are released this May, 2020.  The last three May 2021.

After countless interviews with people who have suffered loss, and Marian’s 30 years of exposure in the field, I crawled into their stories and created Moments, diary entries, as I connected and interwove tales I was told.  Each book is a grief journey from the raw pain of loss and loneliness to the place of breath and healing.   

Prose and poetry come alive on these pages.  I am hugely proud of what I have written in these books, and what we have created together. 

Have a box of tissues close by….your tears will flow from a spectrum of colours.

Remember, It’s OK: Loss of a Partner

If you have lost your partner, your love, your other half, this book is for you. If you don’t know where to turn because your heart is so very broken, open the cover of this book. Inside these pages are moments you can identify with and guidance that will help you on this painful journey through grief.

Remember, It’s OK: Loss of a Parent

If you have lost your partner, your love, your other half, this book is for you. If you don’t know where to turn because your heart is so very broken, open the cover of this book. Inside these pages are moments you can identify with and guidance that will help you on this painful journey through grief.

Remember, It’s OK: Loss for Teens

Whether it be the death of a friend or family member, this book was written in consultation with teens to ensure it meets their needs. Inside these pages are moments you will identify with and guidance that will help you on your painful journey. There are no secrets here–this book can be your safety net, your comfort, your help.

Marina L. Reed (honB.A., M.A., B.Ed.)

Marina grew up in rural Ontario. She has since lived and worked in countries around the world as an educator, a journalist, writer, and artist. She brings her skills as a writer and experiences of loss in her own life to cocreate Remember…It’s OK.

Marian Grace Boyd (B.R.E., B.A.Psych, M.A. Counselling Psych.)

Marian was born in Switzerland, lived in Chad, Africa, and then settled in Toronto, Ontario, Canada. Marian has 30+ years experience as a psychotherapist, adoption practitioner, and grief counsellor. She brings her formal training and experiences of grief together to cocreate Remember…It’s OK. Follow her on Instagram/rememberitisok.