Remember, It’s OK

                                                                                    WE HAVE CREATED A NEW PARADIGM FOR GRIEF.

A paradigm that guides and supports and validates you on your journey.

                          A paradigm for the one who has lost a loved one and for those seeking to offer support.

We have written six books dealing with loss in our lives.  We then went on to create four Guidebooks to help and support your grief journey. And I have provided some important information, resources and links to caring for yourself while on your journey.  You will find all of these on this page.  Just keep scrolling down.

Resources for those on a healing journey.

Grief can effect how we think and feel in subtle ways that can remain hidden, even from ourselves. I have created links to give you more information so you can better understand your thoughts, feelings and actions, and find ways to manage and help yourself as you journey toward healing. These links are for both teens and adults. Please have a look.

PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder):

 A very worthwhile book to have beside you:

“Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving.      by Pete Walker

Three great links to help you better understand PTSD and what you can do.  You can heal.  Don’t keep suffering.

CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy):

Choose your path.  You don’t have to stay on the same track and be plagued by the same distressing thoughts over and over again. There are ways to reprogram your brain. Check this out.

Tapping:

This is a simple yet powerful technique that can reduce your feelings of stress and anxiety.  Check it out.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pAclBdj20ZU

Breathing:

We often forget to breath when we are stressed and yet it is an essential tool to bring us calm.  Have a look at these techniques you can use.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sJ04nsiz_M0

Grounding Technique:

This is a simple yet very effective way to get control of your thoughts and feelings. It is for adults, teens and younger children.

https://copingskillsforkids.com/blog/2016/4/27/coping-skill-spotlight-5-4-3-2-1-grounding-technique

Self care:

Grief and loss can be overwhelming and we forget to look after ourselves.  Self care is so important.  Have a listen.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w0iVTQS8ftg&list=PLFGedk8ChiyWUZX2DQ4y_VhE3HhQ-LV3d

Remember, It’s OK

                                                                                                               THE GUIDEBOOKS

To make your journey as easy as possible we have written four Guidebooks that you can download for free. 

Please use the guidebooks as you work with your Remember book. They work together. (All the Remember books are listed below the guidebooks.)

Guidebook One is really the place to begin.  It discusses the myths and roadblocks that have been created around grief and how to overcome them.  It allows you to step into this new grief paradigm and so get the most out of the Remember books.

Guidebook Two is written for the one in grief and has simple things to do in order to work with the Remember book as easily as possible. It will help you on your journey of healing.

Guidebook Three is for the people seeking to provide support for those in grief – family members, friends, educators, clergy, veterinarians, funeral homes, health care providers. There are activities to help you come to know and understand the grief process and how to be a positive part of that.

Guidebook Four is an 8 session program designed for anyone who wants a structured way forward in learning about grief, how to use it in your workplace or home. 

Please click on the Guidebooks below.  You can print them out or use them on any device.  Please email me any questions you may have. Go to my Contact page.

                                                                                              THE SIX REMEMBER, IT’S OK BOOKS

Please open Guidebook One to learn more about what went into writing each one of these books and how you can shift your thinking about grief. 

Each Remember book deals with a different loss, but is written in the same format:

Colours

Colours have universal themes that have resonated throughout history. The colour choices for the grief journey and subsequent “Moments” were instinctual for us from the beginning:

Red – survival, urgency

Orange – beginning to find self, immediacy

Yellow – coming back to self, growing awareness

Green – learning to balance self, learning

Turquoise – what path am I on now, increased awareness and curiosity

Pale blue – clarity of new path, beginning to move forward, increased openness

Prose and Poetry

The Remember, It’s OK series are books of “Moments”.  These authentic expressions of grief are in the form of prose and sometimes poetry, written like private journal entries.  They give the reader a “Moment”, a glimpse into the experience of someone grieving, and an opportunity to observe the response of a caring support person or companion.  

Each “Moment” is an integration of the many voices of those in grief and those seeking to support. 

Each “Moment” is not the voice of one person.

After countless interviews with people who had suffered loss, hours of research and Marian’s 30 years of experience in the field, I crawled into these stories of pain and loss and created “Moments”…connecting and interweaving this myriad of information.  It was an arduous challenge as a writer; to create one authentic voice from many into a “Moment”. The result is powerful as you will see. I am very proud of this work.

Blank Pages

Every “Moment” in the Remember, It’s Ok books have blank pages.   This is space we gave you to breathe, pause and reflect before going forward to the next “Moment”.  Some blank pages have a suggestion, offering concrete ways to experience and understand your emotions. These blank pages have been included for you to document your own grief journey.

Each Remember book is a grief journey from the raw pain of loss and loneliness to the place of breath and healing.  A journey of colours. Your journey.

Please begin your journey and order one of the books below that resonates with your loss or that of someone you care about.

Remember, It’ OK.

ORDERING YOUR BOOK

All the books below have buttons to make your purchase simple.

You can also go to your local bookstore and order directly from them.  It may be much quicker.  Plus, we love to support our local, independent bookstores.

NOW AVAILABLE

Ask your local book store to order it for you. You can also order through Indigo.  If you have any trouble please send me an email. marinalreed@gmail.com

Losing an animal friend can be heartbreaking. To many, quite devastating. They are part of your life, you family, your heart. So many people who lose a pet friend suffer in silence.  It can often be difficult to get understanding and validation for the depth of that loss. But it is a loss, a deep one.  And grief will find its way into your life.  Remember, It’s OK. We are here to support you, and give guidance to others who want to understand and help.  You are not alone.  Your grief is real and we are here to help you on your grief journey.  

NOW AVAILABLE

Ask your local book store to order it for you. You can also order through Indigo.  If you have any trouble please send me an email. marinalreed@gmail.com

Losing a sibling can feel like losing a piece of yourself. Your family has been rocked. Losing a friend can feel exactly the same, often without the validation from family and friends. The bond that connects us to people we love is strong, and their loss creates a hole in our lives. It can feel like that hole is bottomless. It’s not. Remember, it’s OK. You are not alone. We will help you find your way back. We are here for you.

NOW AVAILABLE

Ask your local book store to order it for you. You can also order through Indigo.  If you have any trouble please send me an email. marinalreed@gmail.com

Time often stands still when we lose someone we love, especially if that someone is our child.  Loss of a child is life altering.  We hope we can calm your heart and offer thoughts and suggestions to help you move forward in your life.

If you have lost your partner, your love, your other half, this book is for you. If you don’t know where to turn because your heart is so very broken, open the cover of this book. Inside these pages are moments you can identify with and guidance that will help you on this painful journey through grief.

If you have lost your partner, your love, your other half, this book is for you. If you don’t know where to turn because your heart is so very broken, open the cover of this book. Inside these pages are moments you can identify with and guidance that will help you on this painful journey through grief.

Whether it be the death of a friend or family member, this book was written in consultation with teens to ensure it meets their needs. Inside these pages are moments you will identify with and guidance that will help you on your painful journey. There are no secrets here–this book can be your safety net, your comfort, your help.

Marina L. Reed (honB.A., M.A., B.Ed.)

Marina grew up in rural Ontario. She has since lived and worked in countries around the world as an educator, a journalist, writer, and artist. She brings her skills as a writer and experiences of loss in her own life to cocreate Remember…It’s OK.

Marian Grace Boyd (B.R.E., B.A.Psych, M.A. Counselling Psych.)

Marian was born in Switzerland, lived in Chad, Africa, and then settled in Toronto, Ontario, Canada. Marian has 30+ years experience as a psychotherapist, adoption practitioner, and grief counsellor. She brings her formal training and experiences of grief together to cocreate Remember…It’s OK. Follow her on Instagram/rememberitisok.