Change is another word for grief – part 2
So we don’t like change, any kind, big or small. When it involves losing a person it means losing the energy in the room, in the space, that the person brings. And we notice that. We feel that. A hole is created. Depending upon a number of variables; how much we cared for that person, how much energy was shared, etc the deeper the hole feels.
But I do believe that if we were taught how to handle that shift in energy, that hole, that loss, it would be different, not as suck-the-life-out-of-you painful. If we were taught to understand what those feelings were caused by and that the moment will in fact, move and shift, I think grief would be a horse of a different colour. We attach to energy from another. And without it, it is difficult to progress. But it still is a change, and the change will move into another moment, and another. Loss, change, grief….over and over again. So it would be a good idea to get a handle on all this. A healthier one.
We know that we have domesticated animals, but we fail to accept that we are also domesticated. And in that, we have agreed to definitions and norms. Doesn’t mean those norms are truth. They have changed over the course of time, and will change again. So maybe find yourself ahead of the game a bit. Find awareness of ebb and flow in your life. And that change, big or small, is not an end at all. Rather a shift to the next moment.
(first posted on GriefPortals.com)